The problem with deep-seated traits like perfectionism is that you can’t simply turn them off. Attempting to do so often has a yo-yo effect: we indulge temporarily in complete surrender and then rebound back to tighter control than ever—some of us live life constantly bouncing from extreme to extreme. Living on the edge may give us short-lived highs and moments of joy, but long-term, sustainable contentment is only found in moderation.Therein lies the secret to overcoming perfectionism: recognition that the the perfect life is not gasping at extreme ideals, it is a life of moderation. So,keep your perfectionistic tendencies for now, but redefine the ideal you are reaching for: strive for balance.
With the beginning of every new year, like clockwork, we find ourselves exposed to talk about New Year's Resolutions. Goals set from a foundation of self-realization are not about changing who we are, they are about expressing, coming into, and aligning with who we are. They aren’t about guilt, shame, or obligation; they are about purpose, passion, and freedom. They are createdout of self love rather than out of self-loathing. In order to stay motivated to manifest goals and to feel a deep sense of fulfillment as we approach them, we must stay connected to our true, perfect selves and our deep sense of purpose. This is wheresankalpa comes in.